The Legend of The Steve Lady

Published: September 25, 2008 in SF Bay Times–another article from the archives that i wanted to share

I knew of The Steve Lady years before he became known as The Steve Lady, if you call cowering with wide eyes and curiosity as he elegantly sauntered past you with a pair of his closest friends at the End-up to their familiar spot at the bar like they had just burst out of an F. Scott Fitzgerald novel. No, I wouldn’t say I really knew him as much as I was intrigued and intimidated by this aura of glamour he and his friends exuded when they walked in a room. I assumed all sorts of things about the trio, like they were descendents of some old world aristocracy, blue bloods educated in European boarding schools who had parents like Dianne Von Furstenberg or Aristotle Onassis and visited the French Riviera annually. They seemed to be the type who had definitely flown on the Concorde many times, so high, so fast, so first class. Steven was quite tall, and the slender lines of his physique just screamed for high couture to be draped upon him: broad shoulders, small waist, those super-model hips jutting forward from his body, sharp enough to cut, and his chin and cheekbones and the intensity of his large eyes, burning like lasers with a hundred yard stare, and that subtle sneer, somewhere between a smile and disdain. He didn’t just walk into a room so much as slice his way through. He frightened me so I never really met or spoke to him for years. One Halloween he dressed up as Cruella Deville from 101 Dalmatians and that was the first foreshadow of the magic yet to come. He was shockingly complete—a dead on likeness of the animated uber villain.

Over the years of consistent nightclubbing through the eighties and early nineties when everyone knew without a doubt where they would be spending their Saturdays and Sunday nights out (Product and Uranus and Klubstitute and Dragstrip to name a few), every time I saw The Steve Lady he looked devastating. His sense of style never adhered to anything over-wrought or campy or from the drag bins. He recognized the power of simplicity and would always choose a look that landed well off the beaten path of drag kitsch and more from the pages of Vogue magazine, fashion period history, specific works by celebrated photographers like Helmut Newton, or imagery from film makers like David Lynch or even Abstract Expressionist German theater and modern Performance Artists. His looks were always high concept, using his vast knowledge of art and enduring images of beauty like a palette of paints to create his unique and elegant forays. He appeared as a force of visual perfection that would humble great beauties throughout history and take your breath away time and time again. He had vision and plans unyielding to any limitations or doubts until as always perfection prevailed.

Looking back at those times now and the many crazy nights of non-stop clubbing when I would run into him, it seems that it was not so much what he was wearing but more about an active physical transformation that he could engage effortlessly; he simply turned on with an almost athletic precision the physical manifestation of what we call a super-model. Not really like today’s most famous super-model, Kate Moss, though she’s amazing, The Steve Lady brought to mind earlier sensations like Linda Evangelista, and of course Verushka. His smooth movements and regal postures, grace and fluidity and that semi robotic stop/start and freeze for the camera pose was so easy and utterly perfect for him and so it gave me chills. I’m so glad there were a handful of very talented photographers forever taking pictures out in the clubs, and of course many of them spotted the magic in Steven right away and opted for more committed individual sessions, as did a few artists working in other medias. I’m assuming a grand collection of images and artworks will be taking shape to be shared with his friends and fans and loved ones. No one who captured this fire would ever let it be forgotten.

I eventually got over my fear of his fierceness and learned what an engaging conversationalist he was, and what fun it could be to share a few

laughs and cocktails with him. I also learned that he wasn’t from the glamorous Jet-set background I had always imagined, but rather came from Bakersfield, California after a childhood in South America. This information made him even more mysterious than before. How did this boy from Bakersfield become so emblematic of high fashion, opulence, and extreme glamour? He was downright otherworldly, perhaps an old soul with epic pasts of power royalty and fame. Steven was actually a very nice person, wickedly funny, quick-witted and quite informed in the areas of art and culture and music as he would demonstrate when making song requests when I was DJ-ing at the Hole in The Wall and The Eagle. His choices were always thematically appropriate but with a flair for the dramatic or moody, like early Sonic Youth or Heroes-era Bowie or even music from film soundtracks like David Lynch’s Fire Walk With Me, or the high-art extreme vocal techniques of Diamanda Galas, but he enjoyed all kinds of odd pop music and could squeeze the irony or humor out of any song he performed to, changing it forever in the minds of his audience. I know that I’ll never hear Duran Duran’s “Girls on Film” again without thinking about his unforgettable performance and winning turn at the very first Miss Trannyshack pageant, which was also the first time I recall him performing as The Steve Lady, perhaps the best drag name ever.

The Steve Lady at the first Miss Trannyshack Pagent

In hindsight I honestly cannot remember a single performance that took place that night besides The Steve Lady’s and I bet few others can either because what he did on stage that night at the Stud Bar transcended any and all performances I’ve seen that fall under the category of drag or tranny. It was really quite simple, an entourage of four handsome guys wearing all black and berets equipped with large electric fans and a large piece of black fabric flanked the stage and stretched the fabric like a curtain across it. On cue with the chorus of the song they dropped the fabric and turned on the fans and the Steve Lady simply appeared and gracefully but with an icy resolve modeled her fucking brains out. She channeled every exquisite notion of high glamour so precisely it caused complete pandemonium in the crowd. The roar was deafening, people were jumping up and down and screaming, all over a breathtaking display of high-octane turbo-charged world-class beauty. The curtain went up and came down three different times, exposing a different look each time, executed in seconds and utterly flawless, each one surpassing the other. It was overwhelmingly clear who would be crowned the first Miss Trannyshack. The voting process was a blur or maybe it just lasted about 10 seconds and there was no element of suspense or surprise. Everyone knew who nailed the title and the cheering had not subsided since the end of the performance. As the black leather studded sash was placed over The Steve Lady’s shoulder and she was handed a bouquet of flowers Heklina asked, “How does it feel being crowned the first Miss Trannyshack,” to which The Steve Lady succinctly responded, “I feel like chicken.” It was unforgettable.

The subsequent performances I’ve witnessed over the years were all unique and unparalleled. Once at a co-hosting stint at trannyshack she wore a tan pencil skirt and brown silk blouse—like she might have worked retail downtown—with a totally real-looking, parted-in-the-middle-afro-puffs wig, curved fake fingernails about four inches long, and painted brown and varying shades of brown base make-up eye-shadow and lipstick. She performed the song “Double-Dutch Bus,” a male vocal. Her multi-media step-down number for the second Miss Trannyshack pageant included a remake of the Duran Duran Video “Rio” in which she visited exact locations as the original work and projected the film behind her. The commitment was mind-blowing. On a Bowie tribute night she was the only one who would dare come as his wife Iman, wearing a controversial coating of (gasp) shade appropriate base make-up to match the African super-model, and another night I recall her and Robbie D doing a particularly awesome number as pop-and-lock robotic bitches. There are far too many amazing performances to mention and I haven’t even delved into his efforts in legitimate theatrical projects as writer director and actor when he relocated to L.A. H He described to me on a visit to San Francisco one more interesting and groundbreaking look he sported after moving south. He would go out in a smart gentleman’s suit, blazer, slacks, dress shirt and a fedora hat with his entire face and hands completely painted black, beyond a natural skin pigmentation. Just the whites of his eyes and his teeth would show. As always he was forging ahead in his artistic expression, challenging concepts of beauty as much as defining and owning them in the most accomplished way I’ve ever witnessed.

In writing this article after the passing of this exceptional, visionary talent and object of much love respect and joy to so many I can’t help but feel overwhelmed by sadness. Steven Price brought so much brilliance to this world and inspired so many different lives in numerous ways that it feels like a white hot light has been turned off, our world is darkened, even grim. But in all of our memories and in rolls of film and scores of digital photography and artwork I’ve started to see that nothing will ever extinguish the beauty and energy and achievement of this life sadly ended. It’s up to us to pull all that remains of our dear friends’ legacy together in a place where he’ll exist forever, our memories. The best way to do so is to help others who try to do the same. Share your memories and know he wouldn’t want our hearts to be heavy, he’d want us to remember and smile and laugh and feel rich, forever. Rest in peace Steven.

Rough Trade Revisited

I’ve started to post some of my old favorite articles From the SF Bay Times on this blog because i liked them and wanted people to see more samples of my writing.  Heres one from january 2006

Living with and surviving the age-old gay male fascination with Rough Trade has been a hot and current topic around my house for the past few months, or rather pretty much since I moved into this neighborhood known as the Tender Nob. This expanse of several blocks seems to facilitate my coming into contact with young men of a certain ilk who invariably show signs of some form of human goodness or decency at first, or at least exhibit some inexplicable classic beauty, the likes of which many a writer or artist in history has obsessed on (Genet’s tattooed criminal prisoners, Gustav’s obsession with the youthful perfection of Tadzio in A Death in Venice, Andy Warhol’s constant use in films of hustler icon Joe Dallesjandro) but ultimately they have qualities of a forbidden or dangerous side, the allure of criminal activity, the scandal of their tender age, the romanticized rebellion and savage street savvy, the thug/angel juxtaposition that so many fall for. One can get very caught up in the exhilaration of enjoying the company of an exotic individual from another walk of life completely, but it seems that in the case of Rough Trade, enjoyment soon will turn to regret as the true colors of Trade are revealed. Who knew that sociopath was on the color wheel and what a hideous shade it is? Should you have anticipated the inevitable fact that your new friend is a reprobate, a person with out the slightest hint of morals, gratitude, honesty or humility? They would take your last cigarette or your laptop and think nothing of it and eventually return and ask for or just take more. The big question that arises repeatedly through the shocking acts of blatant heartless thievery or the complete disregard for many of the things I value, processes I hold sacred, and the tools and time implicit to the work I do, is “Why on earth do you let this unrefined unrepentant low-life hustler trash into your home and into your life again and again, giving him carte blanche to chisel away at your comfort zone little by little with his inability to distinguish right from wrong, good from evil or the meaning of the word no?” Good fucking question.

Why do I continue being oddly involved in a blatantly parasitic model of interaction with absolutely no hope of sharing a common ground or mutual respect or trust… I’m far too busy hiding my few valuables, my cash, a checkbook, my i-pod that replaced the one he stole, and the swelling urge to bludgeon his head with a blunt object or tie him up and call the other two guys I’ve met who he has worked over in the same way and collectively help him to remember some or all of our more intimate moments or some of the angrier ones. There were so many indications that I was treading in a dangerous territory. Why didn’t I put some immediate distance on the situation and individual? It’s not like I haven’t witnessed Rough Trade in its natural habitat real close up before. Anyone who doesn’t understand why paying my bill to keep power on in my apartment takes precedence over scoring a 10-dollar rock of crack cocaine is likely just wrong–no one I should know. I can’t think of a more obvious red flag, yet I ignored or accepted this like many more to follow. Why did I ignore these things? I’m really not sure. Maybe I was continually overwhelmed by the aesthetics of the situation. This particular guy had captivated me on sight as I approached the front door of my building one night and he asked me if I had a light. I knew I didn’t so I said, “no, sorry but I do have one inside.” He said great and followed me in. He was dressed head to toe in pure gangsta streetwear, oversized layers of tracksuits clinging low on his hips, lean frame, broad shoulders, baseball cap on backwards, one leg of the sweats pulled up, big white clean Reeboks and very large hands, one of which landed on the mouse of my computer which he promptly began to play solitaire on. I should have set boundary number one right there and insisted that no one but me ever touches my computer but I didn’t, and many people just disregard that rule anyway. Small talk commenced, a joint was smoked and he almost immediately mentioned his girlfriend then added that she knew nothing of his fooling around with guys. I didn’t even have to delicately inquire and dance around the straight male psyche like Salome. I didn’t have to even start the transparent corny dialogue ala Seduced Straight Guys. He clearly was charting this course towards pleasures he was no stranger to. I glanced at his long fingers drumming the mouse and commented that his hands were so large and in a bold move that almost said, “You know what they say, big hands….” and he stood up and dropped his sweat pants. There are some words that don’t allow to be spoken. We were off to the races and I was continually surprised by his progressive knowledge of the love that dare not speak its name, flowing at an advanced course level incongruously over various classic-style prison tattoos of goth letters and religious imagery and a couple of pronounced stab wound scars–not your average mod prim gay guy body art for sure. He was the elusive real deal, Rough Trade personified. After we finished he called his girlfriend and spoke to her in Spanish and pulled back the curtain instructing her to go to her window to point out that he was standing in an apartment that was visible from hers. “Please shut the curtain,” I said feeling slightly uncomfortable He asked me if I might be able to download Fifty Cent’s new LP and burn it for him and then asked if I could give him a few dollars. Two more flags of warning I ignored with a smile.

Wondering why this person became such a regular fixture in my life, one that I didn’t put out of my life the moment he started exhibiting the truly bad behaviors and literally transformed himself into a walking living consuming list of demands upon my patience, resources, good nature, money and better judgment, I think the answer lies in a pretty simple concept. I didn’t eradicate and banish this individual from my day to day life, the constant stopping by at all hours to ask for any of his numerous needs that he had long ago decided I owed him unquestioningly, can be found in the basic description of our fateful first meeting. Note the romanticized idyllic description of the subject, his physical aesthetics alone are the most telling reasons and likely the only reason I can find in all the madness that I haven’t chased his ass off with a blunt object. Why I haven’t forbade his regular visits powered by the shocking audacity to steal from me one day and return the next to ask for more and the layers of deceit he weaves in and around his actions as justification—though you know he doesn’t truly need to justify anything to anyone in his drug-addled mind. What sociopath does? It’s a familiar scenario really; countless others have been through it. As Snoop Dogg says, “This type of shit happens every day.”

The justification for my involvement just isn’t enough any longer and has seriously damaging effects on my self-esteem, so it has to end. The other day the light at the end of the tunnel became clear when he came over and was very upset because someone had told his girlfriend that he was involved with me and another guy, and she was pissed and has vowed to confront me about it. I can’t believe she really doesn’t have a clue about her boyfriend. He told me I have to tell her there’s nothing going on. I told him that what has been done can’t be undone, and in my memory he led the way from the very beginning, he did what he wanted and there was nobody else to blame. I also said I didn’t want to talk to his girlfriend about it as I didn’t want to lie, and I didn’t want to expose the truth either. I don’t care either way. I saw the worry in his brow and watched him squirm and realized that there was one thing he actually seemed to care about after all. I told him that he really shouldn’t deceive the people he truly cares about, and that was the most important lesson to be learned here. “In the end, only the truth will set you free,” I said with a sincere smile. I meant it.

This neighborhood is colorful but I think I need to move.